Give yourself a break. You don't have to do it all. You don't have to measure up to other people's standards. You may want to reevaluate your standards - are your standards fair? If you feel like you're disappointing other people, release yourself from that kind of thinking. it's not doing you any good. Live according to your own standards. Don't worry about what's normal, or not. Don't worry about "what they are thinking," just -- begin! Begin to trust your own instincts, your gut. Act according to what's right for you. It won't take long to get very good at hearing and trusting your gut; it takes practice. Begin to trust your gut, and it will lead you right. Give yourself a break. You're okay in every way. You're a work in progress. You are loved. Keep making good decisions, one at a time. --ae
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Thank you Amy - my what a long strange trip it's been...
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Amy,
This is exactly what I needed today. Thanks so much!
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